Deconditioning: A Human Design Story

I’ve reached the cellular shift in my deconditioning journey, marking the halfway point of the first round in the seven-year deconditioning cycle. This journey has been anything but linear, filled with profound lessons, unexpected twists, and deep self-discovery. Today, I’ll share how I discovered Human Design and how it has shaped my life ever since.

 The Beginning

In 2011, I was a single mom with an 8-year-old daughter, deeply immersed in astrology since the age of 13. When I first encountered Human Design, I pulled my chart and felt a firm No. I wasn’t ready.

I don’t remember the specifics of what I saw or heard, but that first doubt was clear. I had a lot to learn before I was ready to embrace this system.  

I was not ready until 2021, just beginning the three-year transition of my Uranus opposition, with a simultaneous channel of mutation activation via Pluto in gate 60 activating my hanging gate 3. 

My identity markers then were vastly different from what they are today and I had no concept of how to make decisions for myself.

• I was a card-carrying Libertarian, working on a national grassroots volunteer campaign for presidential nominee Jo Jorgensen, and on the verge of leaving politics forever.
• I was a card-carrying wife to an emotional Manifestor, beginning the process of divorce.
• I was also a card-carrying Christian, breaking ties with the church after the pastor’s wife discriminated against my non-binary daughter.  

It was a time of upheaval, but also transformation.

The Turning Point

In April 2021, my ex-husband moved out. That weekend, I rented a yurt in Austin and embarked on a solo mushroom journey to integrate the changes in my life. That yurt changed everything.  

The land was part of an intentional community, and through a series of serendipitous events, I met a man who would guide me from my old life into my new one. He was a Native American fire chief and tattoo artist from Austin, with long hair, covered in tattoos, and a daily cannabis habit. He drove a Harley and introduced me to sweat lodges and teepee meetings. For the first time, I experienced true community.  

Our relationship was beautiful at first but followed my conditioned pattern of jumping from one relationship to the next. He was the polar opposite of my all-American, blond, Ohioan ex-husband.

My family was… concerned.

As an emotional Projector with no defined Root or Spleen, I had no concept of body wisdom or embodiment. I relied heavily on signs and symbols from my defined Head Center. I would fixate on problems and lean on outside opinions, soundboarding to find consensus before making decisions.  

Wrapped up in this wild love affair, I questioned whether it was real or a projection. I turned to a clairvoyant tarot-reading friend, who asked if I knew about Human Design. 

Embracing Human Design

This time, when I pulled my chart, I knew. I was hooked. My first-line body and fear motivation were captivated. Within weeks, I had my first reading, and the deconditioning process began.

I consumed every source of Human Design material I could find, talking to anyone knowledgeable. Within six months, I had two more readings and began to approach the system methodically. 

Just like children have to separate energetically from their parents to see who they are opposed from their conditioning, I started breaking away from my boyfriend and stepping into my true authority. 

Breaking up with him was harder than divorcing my ex-husband.  I could see the emotional low but had no idea how to navigate it. 

I hired my first coach, a clairvoyant who incorporated Human Design into her methodology. She helped me understand my emotional authority and taught me embodiment exercises to feel the knowledge rather than just intellectualize it. She introduced me to a tracking system to observe my emotional waves, which eventually inspired me to write a book.  

The Deconditioning Journey

Around this time I was also introduced to the deconditioning guide by Richard Rudd (pre-Gene Keys) and used it to trace my journey back to my first reading. 

My boyfriend and I were on and off again, even after he moved to Costa Rica in August 2022. We finally broke up in November 2022.  

In September 2022, I attended my first Human Design gathering in Santa Fe, where I began to understand aura mechanics and Pentas due to being around that many people all years into their experiment.

Over the next year, I had a few rebound flings but remained largely single. At some point, I realized I just wasn’t interested in having a partner. It’s been two years since I’ve had a serious relationship. I don’t like to say I’m celibate because it puts too many rules and regulations and stereotypes, I just like to say I’m on a relationship detox.

Pretty soon after he and I broke up, the human design invitations started flooding in. 

In spring of 2023 I started Human Design Houston with a friend who went with me to the conference in Santa Fe. We loved it so much that we wanted to have more local friends who could speak the language. And we wanted to offer the same opportunity to level up and evolve that we have been given at the Santa Fe conference. Our meetup is now coming up on its two-year anniversary.

The meetups helped me overcome my fear of public speaking. As a 5/1 Projector with a strong projection field, I was always the girl that would be behind the scenes, writing and directing, but anytime I would get on the stage I’d freeze. 

But now because of the meet-ups and deconditioning, the projection fields don’t cause me so much anxiety. I’ve gotten more comfortable with speaking and teaching in front of a group of people. My mind watches my 23/43 driven body, watching the words come out and trusting that what I’m saying is coming from my heart.

Because of the meetups I was also invited to start giving Human Design foundational readings. I had been doing it like a hobby for a while, but now I was starting to do complete integrated readings on donation basis.

Within 6 months I felt comfortable setting a flat rate and approaching my work in human design professionally. This led to invitations to provide human design readings at festivals and fairs, and invitations for foundational human design readings.

In September 2023, I returned to the Human Design conference in Santa Fe. On my way there, I stopped in Austin for a QHHT past life regression, which confirmed why I incarnated at this time. My mission became clear, preparing me for another level of integration. 

Around this time, I also started seeing Human Design mechanics in my corporate revenue strategy work—how hexagram lines aligned with sales funnels and how auras shaped the universal creation cycle. This insight led to Revenue Polaris, where I merged Human Design with revenue operations.

Kundalini

I also began formal Human Design training and became a Living Your Design Guide. Then, right before completing my certification, I experienced a spontaneous Kundalini Awakening.

In April 2023, a series of events aligned:
    •    April 8 – Solar Eclipse
    •    April 10 – Neptune entered Gate 25.1 (activating the exaltation for that gate)
    •    April 12 – Pluto moved from to Gate 41 (new beginnings) releasing the sacral activation I had been experiencing for the previous few years.
    •    April 13 – My kundalini awakening happened. 
    •    April 17 – I completed my LYD Guide course.
    •    April 20 – I stopped eating meat after it made me sick.
    •    April 27 – I dreamed of a snake and woke up with the word kundalini

Here's how it all went down on April 13, 2024:

My daughter and I arrived late to the ecstatic dance, but the moment I stepped onto the dance floor, I was swept away by the energy already harnessed by the tribe. It felt like being caught in a tidal wave, a force so powerful it consumed me entirely. By the fourth song, I was completely lost in the experience. My friends invited me to dance with them.

In my mind’s eye, I saw a golden laser beam shooting down between us. My body coursed with adrenaline, as if I were in a race car. My mind wanted to run—it was overwhelming and confusing—but my spirit pushed me into the light. I surrendered, feeling safe because I sensed they were experiencing it with me. I trusted them.

When the song ended, so did the experience. I asked if they felt it too, but their experiences were different. One friend felt energy lifting me off the ground, amplifying the light. The other described feeling like a channel, with energy flowing through all three of us.

It was as if the three of us had become a powerful energy conductor. At the time, I didn’t even know the word “Kundalini.”

When I returned to dancing, everything felt different. People’s faces, their intentions—all I could see or feel was “not self.” It was irritating, almost unbearable. I couldn’t stay to socialize after the circle; I had to leave immediately. This sensitivity persisted at other events, leaving me feeling isolated, as if I were the only one who could see it.

I kept reminding myself, “Eyes of Love. We are one. What I see in others is in me.” But the irritation didn’t subside. I found myself wanting to withdraw from the ecstatic dance community. It became clear: it was time to be alone. My mind wouldn’t let up until I surrendered to that fact.

On April 27, I had a vivid dream.

In the dream, I was in a glass greenhouse with a podium of dirt at its center. As I shaped the dirt, I uncovered a massive albino python coiled beneath it. The snake began to wake, rising to look down at me. I felt scared but unsure if it was harmful. I left the greenhouse, seeking advice. Some suggested killing it, others ignoring it, but none of these felt right. I decided to bring the snake food and water, wondering what to do.

When I woke, I realized the python symbolized my Kundalini awakening. I felt unsure if my own energy was safe or could be trusted. The dream mirrored my internal struggle: should I set the snake free, build a bigger house, or dismantle the house entirely? I didn’t have the answers, but I knew the snake needed to guide me.

In the weeks that followed, I made significant changes. I started eating vegetarian to diversify my gut microbiome, downloaded *Serpent Rising* (a book on Kundalini), and stepped back from social media and Human Design projects. I began practicing aikido, donated half my clothing, and spent more time alone or in one-on-one connections. Random energy surges became common, an erotic energy that wasn’t purely sexual but deeply alive.

Looking for answers, I had a Kundalini Activation Process (KAP). During the session, my body moved uncontrollably, as if making love to Spirit. I cried, laughed, yelled, and shook, experiencing waves of energy like continuous orgasms. I saw the red eye of the snake from my dream, fully open and staring at me. It felt like every experience in my life had led to this moment.

On June 8, I received the Shaktiput blessing from Swamiji, a guru from a long lineage of masters. The experience was subtle, unlike the intensity of the dance or KAP.

During Satsang, someone asked, “Is Kundalini related to sexuality?” Swamiji’s answer was profound:

“Confusing sexuality for Kundalini is like thinking the river is the ocean. Kundalini is ALL energy, the force of God, Shakti. Sexuality is one aspect of it. Manipulating sexuality to increase Kundalini creates limitations.”

He also shared a metaphor about houses and space: “The snake is equally in the house and out of the house because the snake is the space in all things.”

This answered my dream’s question—I didn’t need to dissolve the house, make it bigger, or set the snake free. The snake is everywhere, in everything.

Since the blessing, I’ve committed to daily hour-long meditations to continue integrating this energy. Kundalini isn’t just a force within me—it’s the force that moves me, the space that connects all things. I’ve learned that Kundalini isn’t something to control or understand fully. It’s a force to surrender to, a guide to follow. And as I continue to navigate this path, I’m reminded: the snake is both within and without, and the house is just a temporary structure in the infinite space of existence.

Karmic Quickening

After Shaktipat, the karmic quickening began—bringing unresolved patterns to the surface for healing. 

On July 3, 2024, a misunderstanding landed me in jail. It was one of the most painful experiences of my life. Sitting in that cell, surrounded by women from the hardest walks of life, I had conversations I never would have had otherwise. I saw suffering up close—the kind that breaks people, the kind that made me realize how deeply I am called to help.

I was released on July 4. That night, I took my kids to watch fireworks. I had never cried so hard in gratitude for my freedom. It felt like a gift from God. I am still battling the court system to clear my name.

Days later, I was gifted ‘Be Here Now’ by Ram Dass. Then, I discovered a Hindu temple just a mile from my house, one of the most ornate in Houston, somehow hidden from me for 7 years. I visited but didn’t know what to do there, so I prayed for guidance.

Soon after, I met someone well-versed in Hinduism and also curious about Human Design—we exchanged wisdom. He toured me around the temple, and specifically introduced me to Hanuman.

In August 2024, I attended my first Kirtan, where I met someone who lived at the Ram Dass Temple in Taos. When I told him I’d be in Santa Fe for the Human Design Conference, he invited me to visit.

Right before the September 2024 conference, my world turned upside down again. I was laid off, and I found out my dad had cancer. I had no idea what my future held, but I knew I had to be at that conference.

At the conference, I connected with five specific people:
    1.    A friend I had fallen out with the year before—we reconciled.
    2.    The QHHT practitioner who had given me my past life reading on the way to the last conference was now leading a group regression atthe  current conference.
    3.    A coaching client and therapist who was helping me process my jail experience.
    4.    A Human Design friend with the same birthday and incarnation cross as me.
    5.    The Jyotish astrologer and HD analyst who had guided me to receive Shaktipat.

On the last day, we visited the Hanuman Temple in Taos with my Kirtan friend, who, as it turned out, was one of Ram Dass’ closest companions before he passed. He gave us a private tour, showing us where Ram Dass’ ashes were laid. When I saw the Hanuman statue, something inside me cracked open. I wanted to hug it, kiss it—an unfamiliar but deeply felt devotion.

Back in Houston, at our next Human Design Houston meetup, we had a Vedic astrologer speaking to the group. He pulled me aside and told me my chart showed immense struggle and mutation, and he strongly advised me to start chanting the Hanuman Chalisa.

Moments later, two friends mentioned a new 90-foot Hanuman statue on the outskirts of Houston. We went that evening, just as the sun was setting. Inside the temple, they were chanting the Hanuman Chalisa.

So my first time singing it wasn’t alone—it was inside a temple, surrounded by devotion, being blessed by Hanuman himself.

Moving Into Full Time Human Design Guidance

After continuous rejections from corporate world, in October 2024 I launched my first Living Your Design course, called Blooming Your Design.

It is packed with in-depth insights on the centers, aura experiments, and mechanics of Human Design. The original material designed by Ra Uru Hur got morphed into a 20-hour course with over 300 slides, and I discovered I’m a pretty good teacher.

At the same time, I was still seeking stability, going through rounds of interviews, only to be rejected at the final stages each time. It wasn’t until I got the message to surrender and let go of expectations that I found peace with it.

In December 2024, I decided with the team at Human Design Houston to host EmPOWer Your Design, a conference in celebration of the Rave New Year. The event was life-changing, sold out, and showed me that I was on the right path.

Cellular Shift

Fast forward to February 2025. I am a professionally trained Human Design guide, a single mom of three, and an active community host.

I’m wrapping up my Blooming Your Design course, planning the next round, and hosting Karen Curry Parker at our next free meetup. I’m also getting new Human Design directives for business and parenting. 

Two weeks before my cellular shift I had a dream: 

I realized: He was my role model. 

 

 Chiron in Taurus (12th and 3rd Houses): Wounds around security, self-worth, self-expression, and being heard.

Lessons from Deconditioning

This journey has taught me that deconditioning isn’t about control—it’s about surrender, trust, and alignment. It’s about shedding old layers while being rebuilt into a new version of yourself.

Through Human Design, I’ve learned to:

• Trust my emotional authority

• Align with my natural strengths

• Embrace the mutative force of change

• Celebrate progress and rest when needed

Invitation to Blooming Your Design 

As I continue my deconditioning journey, I’m embracing the unknown. I don’t know what’s coming, but I’m ready to receive it with openness and trust.

If you’re on a similar path, know this: Deconditioning is not linear, but it’s powerful. It’s about shedding what no longer serves you and stepping into your authentic self.

If you are ready to embrace this system, join me for Blooming Your Design, a transformative Human Design course designed to deepen your understand of your design and those around you.  

This isn’t just a course—it’s a journey. A journey to:  
✅ Discover your unique design and how to live in alignment with it  
✅ Understand your Strategy and Authority to make decisions with confidence  
✅ Break free from societal conditioning and step into your authentic power  
✅ Build a life that feels natural, fulfilling, and true to who you are  

In this 20-hour course, we’ll dive deep into:  
🔹 The Foundations of Human Design: Centers, Types, Strategies, and Authorities  
🔹 Aura Mechanics: How your energy interacts with others  
🔹 Deconditioning Practices: Shedding old patterns and embracing your true self  
🔹 Practical Tools: How to apply Human Design in your daily life, relationships, and career  


This course is designed to help you:  
✨ Unlock your potential by understanding your unique design  
✨ Navigate life’s challenges with clarity and confidence  
✨ Build deeper connections with yourself and others  
✨ Create a life that flows, rather than forcing yourself into roles that don’t fit  

This course is perfect for you if:  
- You’re curious about Human Design and want to understand your chart  
- You feel stuck in old patterns and are ready to break free  
- You want to add Human Design to your toolbelt of modalities to see and guide others

What You’ll Get:  
- 300+ Slides of in-depth Human Design insights  
- Aura Experiments to help you embody your design  
- Community Support: Connect with like-minded individuals on the same journey  
- Lifetime Access: Revisit the materials anytime you need a refresher  

Don’t wait to step into your power. Join **Blooming Your Design** and start living in alignment with your authentic self.  

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